In November 2022,
Shirley was diagnosed with an inoperable squamous cancer on the back of her
tongue, and so began her leaving. With
surgery not an option, she underwent chemotherapy and radiation treatment, both
unable to stop the growth. A chemo
portal was surgically implanted in her right shoulder and a feeding tube was
inserted into her stomach. Because of
the discomfort, the feeding tube was subsequently removed; we were never able
to get it to function properly despite many attempts.
She was able to
drink liquids and the pulverized vitamin supplements she needed, even though it
was becoming more difficult to swallow. By
the end of August, 2023, she decided the pain was too strong and she signed on
to Hospice care. By September 1st,
she was giving herself morphine by mouth with tranquilizers as needed for
anxiety. I woke up early on the 4th
to hear her breathing, but by 8 o’clock she had left us.
She wanted no
funeral service, just to be cremated. An
obituary in the Rochester, NY paper. Her
ashes to be placed in an urn along with the ashes of our two Corgis, which has
been done. The urn is with me and will
contain my ashes at some future time.